President Obama Speaks to a Group of Students,What Happen Next Is Totally Unexpected

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SECRET-SUCCESSFUL SALES MANAGERS.

A friend of mine is a very successful sales manager. After he had carefully interviewed and then selected a new salesman, he would take to the salesman to a Cadillac dealership and insist that he trade in his old car for a new Cadillac. The salesman would usually balk at the idea. He would be frightened of the cost of the car and the huge monthly payment involved. But the sales manager would insist that he buy the Cadillac as a condition of employment.

What do you think happened afterwards? First, the salesman would driven the car home and wife would most have a heart attack when she saw that he had bought a new Cadillac. But after she had settled down, he would take her for a ride around the neighborhood in the new car. The neighbors would see them driving in a new Cadillac as he waved on the way past. He would park his new Cadillac in front of his house or in his driveway. People would come over and admire it. Gradually, imperceptibly, at a subconscious level, his attitude toward himself and his earning potential would begin to change.

Within a few days, he would begin to see himself as the kind of person who drove a new Cadillac. He would see himself as a big money earner in his field, one of the top performers in his industry. And time after time, almost without fail, the sales people in this organization became sales superstars. Their sales performance jumped and they earned more than they had ever before. Soon the payment on the new Cadillac was of no concern because their incomes were so much greater.

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New Employee Gets A Beating On His First Day. His Response Is Priceless.

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Choose A Crystal – Discover What It Reveals About You

Pick A Crystal

Check out the 3 crystals pictured above, which one are you most attracted to? Choose the one you are most drawn to at this very moment, don’t just pick your favorite color!

Listed below is the explanation of your choice and what it reveals about you. Don’t cheat! Go with your first instinct.

1. Blue Howlite

If you chose crystal number 1, you are being asked to work on your communication skills. Do you need to speak up about what is on your mind? Are you being honest about your feelings, to yourself or someone else? Are you listening to others effectively?

This stone represents the throat chakra which also incorporates the ears – and therefore is associated with communication in all forms.  If you have physical problems in the throat such as a sore throat, it’s time to look at what you’re not saying to someone or you’re being called to speak with more diplomacy. Are you swallowing your words to keep the peace or avoid conflict? Are you speaking with anger?  It’s time to assess the emotional issue behind your throat problem.

If you have problems with your ears, perhaps you’ve decided you don’t want to listen anymore or are being called to listen to those around you including the whispers of your higher self?  Only you will know the truth of this physical ailment. Often children have problems with their ears because they don’t want to hear the word ‘No’ any more or listening to parents fighting.

This Howlite crystal has been dyed blue, so this crystal can also indicate that you are not being true to yourself.  Are you wearing a mask all the time – not allowing others to see the real you? We are all unique and have individual talents and skills – nobody else is quite like you. It’s time to show the world, the real, beautiful you.

2. Green Aventurine

If you chose crystal number 2, you are in need of healing, balance, harmony, peace or much love. Green represents the heart chakra which is central to the lower and higher chakras.  So this chakra represents anything to do with the heart, balance, harmony, healing and love.  Don’t you feel at peace whenever you are in nature? When we take walks in nature, we naturally balance this chakra with the aid of the green foliage.

Choosing this crystal represents a need for healing or coming back to center. Have you closed this chakra due to past wounds? Know that when you close off this chakra, you close yourself to receiving love and connecting with people. Perhaps you have difficulty making friends. This chakra also represents self-love, so perhaps it’s time to start nurturing yourself and allowing yourself to feel worthy and deserving of all the best life has to offer.

Maybe you’ve noticed that hospitals often have their walls painted green. This is because green is a very healing color and it also represents growth.  So now is the time to look at getting some healing of some kind. Of course, any problems to do with the heart or lungs is also an indication that this chakra needs some tender, loving care.

3. Citrine

If you chose crystal number 3, this indicates issues around the Solar Plexus chakra. This chakra is our power centre or the seat of the will. Have you given your power away to others? Have you allowed others to control your life, instead of taking the reigns of your own life? Perhaps you have become dependent on others and/or have low self-esteem. Now is the time to focus on driving your own life. Spend time in quiet meditation and focus on what you want to create in your life. Yes, you have the power to create your reality with visualisation, setting goals and having the courage to take little steps each day towards your goals. Dream big, and know that you are capable to go after your dreams. Perfection is not needed to start – just start.

This crystal is also a great one to use for allowing abundance in all forms to come into your life. Perhaps you have some money issues right now or you’ve been pushing abundance away because you don’t feel worthy or deserving. You are just as deserving as anyone else, so allow abundance to flow into your life.

I hope you enjoyed this reading. Your feedback is always welcome in the comments below.

Love, light, and inspired blessings.

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This Man Just Wanted To Do Something Nice For His Wife. But Then She Said This.

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Sylvester Stallone – The most Inspiring story in the Hollywood’s History

No one knows what you are capable of except yourself . His name is Sylvester Stallone. One of the Talented and Most famous American Movie superstars. Back in the day, Stallone was a struggling actor in every definition. At some point,he got so broke that he stole his wife’s jewelery and sold it. Things got so bad that he even ended up homeless. Yes, he slept at the New York bus station for 3 days. Unable to pay rent or afford food. His lowest point came when he tried to sell his dog at the liquor store to any stranger. He didn’t have money to feed the dog anymore. He sold it at $50 only. He says he walked away crying.

Two weeks later,he saw a boxing match between Mohammed Ali and Chuck Wepner and that match gave him the inspiration to write the script for the famous movie, ROCKY.
He wrote the script for 20 hours! He tried to sell it and got an offer for $125,000 for the script. But he had just one request. He wanted to STAR in the movie. He wanted to be the main actor. Rocky himself. But the studio said NO. They wanted a Real Star.(Also read TIPS FOR ANY YOUTH TO BE SUCCESSFUL)

They said he “Looked funny and talked funny”. He left with his script. A few weeks later,the studio offered him $250,000 for the script. He refused. They even offered $350,000. He still refused. They wanted his movie. But not him. He said NO. He had to be in THAT movie.

After a while,the studio agreed,gave him $35,000 for the script and let him star in it! The rest is history! The movie won Best Picture, Best Directing and Best Film Editing at the prestigious Oscar Awards. He was even nominated for Best Actor! The Movie ROCKY was even inducted into the American National Film Registry as one of the greatest movies ever!

And do You know the first thing he bought with the $35,000? THE DOG HE SOLD. Yes, Stallone loved his Dog so much that he stood at the liquor store for 3 days waiting for the man he sold his dog to. And on the 3rd day, he saw the man coming with the dog. Stallone explained why he sold the dog and begged for the dog back. The man refused. Stallone offered him $100. The man refused. He offered him $500. And the guy refused. Yes,he refused even $1000. And,Believe it or not, Stallone had to pay $3000 for the same, same dog he sold at $50 only! And he finally got his dog back!

MORAL:
No one knows what you are capable of except yourself and most importantly, Never lose hope, no matter what!
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He Wanted A Divorce But Her Secret Brought Me To Tears!

'Til Death Do Us Part

This story is about a marriage ending and will speak to everyone whether you are married or not. This man has fallen in love with a co-worker, named Jane. However, he is married to Amy and has been for 10 years. I know that sounds simple and common, but read on because I promise when you read their story, you will be stunned as the events unfold.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. I observed the concern in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. "I want a divorce" I said calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, but instead asked me softly, "Why?"

I avoided her question which only made her angry. That night, we didn’t talk to each other and she went to bed in tears. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage, but I could hardly give her an answer. How could I tell my wife of 10 years that I had fallen in love with someone else?

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% ownership of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt sorry for her. I was sorry for how she was feeling, but I could not take back what I had said. I had fallen in love with Jane who worked at my company.

Finally, she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To see and hear her cry was actually a bit of a release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks now seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late, having spent the day with Jane, and found Amy sitting at the table writing...something. I didn’t know what to say, so I went straight to bed and fell asleep. When I awoke, she was still there at the table writing. Without asking any questions, I went back to bed. Quite honestly, I just didn't care.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything materialistic from me. She requested that during the next 30 days, that we both work to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with news of our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more. She asked me if I remembered our wedding day. And how I had carried her into out bridal room, over the threshold that night. She continued and requested that every day for the next month’s duration that I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable, I accepted her odd request.

I immediately told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed it off and thought it was absurd. Jane said that, "Amy will have to face the divorce no matter what tricks she was trying to use."

Now, Amy and I hadn’t had any body contact since the night I told her of my affair and my plans to divorce her. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy and awkward. Our son clapped behind us, cheering "Daddy is holding Mommy in his arms!" His words made me sad. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I managed to get her to the front door. Before I put her down, she whispered, "don’t tell our son about the divorce." I nodded in agreement, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. We both headed off to work.

The next day, as I carried her through the house, we both were a little more relaxed. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her perfume on her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face and her hair was beginning to gray. For a moment, I thought about what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me and a beautiful son. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that I still loved her. (I did not share my thoughts with either Jane or Amy) I also noticed, that It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout was making me stronger?

One morning, as we were dressing for work, Amy mentioned that she was struggling with what to wear. She tried on quite a few dresses but because she had lost weight, nothing fit as it did before. Then it hit me. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

A few moments later, our son came into our room and said, "Dad, it’s time to carry Mom to the door." To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and she hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid of the feelings I was having. I then picked her up and carried her through the rooms of our home. Her hands were wrapped gently around my neck, so softly and naturally. I held her body tightly and found myself feeling the way I had felt on our wedding day.

On the last day of the monty, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Her weight loss now made me sad and concerned me. I held her tightly and said, "Im so sorry...I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked REAL intimacy.

In that moment, I knew what I had to do. I quickly drove to the office…. jumped out of the car...and headed straight to Jane's office. I opened her door and said very clearly, "I'm sorry, Jane, but I don't want to divorce my wife anymore. I still love her and have realized over the last 30 days, that I carried her into my home on our wedding day and that I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. And that's what I'm going to do."

As I quickly left the office, I immediately drove straight to the flower shop. I purchased a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The card read, "I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart."

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands and a smile on my face. I felt so alive with my renewed love for my wife.

As I ran upstairs to our bedroom, I found Amy. I found my wife lying in our bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months but I was so busy with Jane, I didn't even notice. She knew that she would die soon and that's why her final request was so important to her. She wanted to ensure that our son would see me, his Dad, as a loving husband. Carrying his mom gently to the door everyday.

This man's story is so powerful and absolutely amazing! And if you're in a marriage that feels doomed for failure, maybe you can find your own way back together again. I'm reminded of the Christian movie "Fireproof" as it offers a theme of reconciliation and making amends. If you haven't seen it, check it out. It's awesome!

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86-Year-Old Woman Sends This Angry Letter To The Bank After They Bounced Her Check

This is an actual letter that was sent to a bank by an 86-year-old woman. It was so amusing that the bank's manager decided to have it published in the New York Times. 

"Dear Sir: 

I am writing to thank you for bouncing my check with which I endeavored to pay my plumber last month. 

By my calculations, 3 nanoseconds must have elapsed between his presenting the check and the arrival in my account of the funds needed to honor it.

 I refer, of course, to the automatic monthly deposit of my entire pension, an arrangement which, I admit, has been in place for only 8 years.

 You are to be commended for seizing that brief window of opportunity, and also for debiting my account $30 by way of penalty for the inconvenience caused to your bank.

 My thankfulness springs from the manner in which this incident has caused me to rethink my errant financial ways. I noticed that whereas I personally answer your telephone calls and letters, — when I try to contact you, I am confronted by the impersonal, overcharging, pre-recorded, faceless entity which your bank has become.

 From now on, I, like you, choose only to deal with a flesh-and-blood person. 

My mortgage and loan repayments will therefore and hereafter no longer be automatic, but will arrive at your bank, by check, addressed personally and confidentially to an employee at your bank whom you must nominate. 

Be aware that it is an OFFENSE under the Postal Act for any other person to open such an envelope.

 Please find attached an Application Contact which I require your chosen employee to complete. I am sorry it runs to eight pages, but in order that I know as much about him or her as your bank knows about me, there is no alternative. Please note that all copies of his or her medical history must be countersigned by a Notary Public, and the mandatory details of his/her financial situation (income, debts, assets and liabilities) must be accompanied by documented proof. 

In due course, at MY convenience, I will issue your employee with a PIN number which he/she must quote in dealings with me. I regret that it cannot be shorter than 28 digits but, again, I have modeled it on the number of button presses required of me to access my account balance on your phone bank service.

 As they say, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Let me level the playing field even further. When you call me, press buttons as follows: 

IMMEDIATELY AFTER DIALING, PRESS THE STAR (*) BUTTON FOR ENGLISH 

#1. To make an appointment to see me 

#2. To query a missing payment. 

#3. To transfer the call to my living room in case I am there.

 #4 To transfer the call to my bedroom in case I am sleeping.

 #5. To transfer the call to my toilet in case I am attending to nature.

 #6. To transfer the call to my mobile phone if I am not at home.

 #7. To leave a message on my computer, a password to access my computer is required. Password will be communicated to you at a later date to that Authorized Contact mentioned earlier. 

#8. To return to the main menu and to listen to options 1 through

 #9. To make a general complaint or inquiry. The contact will then be put on hold, pending the attention of my automated answering service. 

#10. This is a second reminder to press* for English. 

While this may, on occasion, involve a lengthy wait, uplifting music will play for the duration of the call. Regrettably, but again following your example, I must also levy an establishment fee to cover the setting up of this new arrangement. 

May I wish you a happy, if ever so slightly less prosperous New Year? 

Your Humble Client

 And remember: 

Don't make old people mad. 

We don't like being old in the first place, so it doesn't take much to piss us off."

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Man Was So Mad About Shoveling Snow That He Wrote This

It started to snow. The first snow of the season and the wife and I took our cocktails and sat for hours by the window watching the huge soft flakes drift down from heaven. It looked like a Grandma Moses Print. So romantic we felt like newlyweds again. I love snow! 

December 9 

We woke to a beautiful blanket of crystal white snow covering every inch of the landscape. What a fantastic sight! Can there be a lovelier place in the Whole World? Moving here was the best idea I’ve ever had. I shoveled for the first time in years, felt like a boy again. I did both our driveway and the sidewalks. This afternoon the snowplow came along and covered up the sidewalks and closed in the driveway, so I got to shovel again. What a perfect life. 

December 12

 The sun has melted all our lovely snow. Such a disappointment. My neighbor tells me not to worry; we'll definitely have a white Christmas. No snow on Christmas would be awful! Bob says we'll have so much snow by the end of winter, that I'll never want to see snow again. I don't think that's possible. Bob is such a nice man, I'm glad he's our neighbor. 

December 14 

Snow, lovely snow! 8″ last night. The temperature dropped to -20. The cold makes everything sparkle so. The wind took my breath away, but I warmed up by shoveling the driveway and sidewalks. This is the life! The snowplow came back this afternoon and buried everything again. I didn't realize I would have to do quite this much shoveling, but I'll certainly get back in shape this way. I wish I wouldn't huff and puff so. 

December 15 

20 inches forecast. Sold my van and bought a 4×4 Blazer. I bought snow tires for the wife's car and two extra shovels. Stocked the freezer. The wife wants a wood stove in case the electricity goes out. I think that's silly. We aren't in Alaska, after all. 

December 16 

Ice storm this morning. Fell on my ass on the ice in the driveway putting down salt. Hurt like hell. The wife laughed for an hour, which I think was very cruel. 

December 17 

Still way below freezing. Roads are too icy to go anywhere. Electricity was off for five hours. I had to pile the blankets on to stay warm. Nothing to do but stare at the wife and try not to irritate her. Guess I should've bought a wood stove, but won't admit it to her. God I hate it when she's right. I can't believe I'm freezing to death in my own living room.

 December 20 

Electricity's back on, but had another 14″ of the damn stuff last night. More shoveling. Took all day. Goddamn snowplow came by twice. Tried to find a neighbor kid to shovel, but they said they're too busy playing hockey. I think they're lying. Called the only hardware store around to see about buying a snow blower, and they're out. Might have another shipment in March. I think they're lying. Bob says I have to shovel or the city will have it done and bill me. I think he's lying. 

December 22 

Bob was right about a white Christmas, because 13 more inches of the white shit fell today, and it's so cold it probably won't melt 'til August. Took me 45 minutes to get all dressed up to go out to shovel, and then I had to piss. By the time I got undressed, pissed and dressed again, I was too tired to shovel! Tried to hire Bob, who has a plow on his truck, for the rest of the winter; but he says he's too busy. I think the asshole is lying. 

December 23 

Only 2″ of snow today, and it warmed up to “0”. The wife wanted me to decorate the front of the house this morning. What, is she nuts!!! Why didn't she tell me to do that a month ago? She says she did, but I think she's lying. 

December 24 

6″. Snow packed so hard by snowplow, I broke the shovel. Thought I was having a heart attack. If I ever catch the son-of-a-bitch who drives that snowplow, I'll drag him through the snow by his balls and beat him to death with my broken shovel. I know he hides around the corner and waits for me to finish shoveling and then he comes down the street at a 100 miles an hour and throws snow all over everywhere I've just been! Tonight the wife wanted me to sing Christmas carols with her and open our presents, but I was too busy watching for the Goddamn snowplow.

 December 25 

Merry F%^#$%#@ Christmas. 20 more inches of the !*@!#^# slop tonight. Snowed in. The idea of shoveling makes my blood boil. God, I hate the snow! Then the snowplow driver came by asking for a donation and I hit him over the head with my shovel. The wife says I have a bad attitude. I think she's a fricking idiot. If I have to watch “It's a Wonderful Life” one more time, I'm going to stuff her into the microwave. 

December 26 

Still snowed in. Why the hell did I ever move here? It was all HER idea. She's really getting on my nerves. 

December 27 

Temperature dropped to -30, and the pipes froze. Plumber came after 14 hours of waiting for him; he only charged me $1,400 to replace all my pipes.

 December 28 

Warmed up to above -50. Still snowed in. The BITCH is driving me crazy!!! 

December 29 

10 more inches. Bob says I have to shovel the roof or it could cave in. That's the silliest thing I ever heard. How dumb does he think I am?

 December 30 

Roof caved in. I beat up the snow plow driver. He is now suing me for a million dollars; not for only the beating I gave him, but also for trying to shove the broken snow shovel up his a#@!. The wife went home to her mother. 9″ predicted. 

December 31 

I set fire to what's left of the house. No more shoveling. 

January 8

 Feel so good. I just love those little white pills they keep giving me. Why am I tied to the bed?

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A man was asked by his wife to take another woman for a date. It sounds crazy at first, but what she made him do, avoided him a lifetime of guilt.

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This Guy Just Explained Capitalism Absolutely Perfectly

Capitalism in different countries, explained with cows. Who knew cows could be so informative?

 
 

 

“If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you.” ― Oscar Wilde

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This Abused And Starved Dog Was Thrown Down A Trash Chute ... But Then A Miracle Happened

 Patrick

This dog was almost thrown away after being starved and abused.

 Thrown In Garbage Chute

He was skin and bones.

Patrick began to feel better.

Patrick was kept warm and nurtured back to health.

He seems to be starved not only for food but human contact.

Patrick recovered, but most dogs don't.

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Self Confidence can Change everything!

Our Self Confidence Can Change Everything. To support this please Read the following Inspiring story.

Businessman was once in deep debt and could not see any way out. Creditors and Suppliers were demanding payments. He sat in the park, deep in thought, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him and asked, “I can see that something is troubling you seriously”. After listening patiently the old man said, “I believe I can help you”.
He asked the man his name, wrote out a cheque and put it into his hands saying, “Take this money, meet me here exactly one year from today… and you can pay me back at that time”.
Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come. The businessman saw in his hands a cheque for $ 500,000… signed by Warren Buffet, one of the richest men in the world.
“I can erase my worries instantly” he realized.
But instead, the man decided to put the uncashed cheque in his safe, knowing that it might give him the strength to work out to save his business and to use this only in case of dire emergency.

With changed thinking he negotiated better deals, restructured his business and worked rigorously with full zeal and enthusiasm and got several big deals. Within few months, he was out of debt and started making money once again. Exactly one year later he returned to the park with the uncashed cheque.
As agreed, the old man appeared.

But just as the businessman was about to hand him back the cheque and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man. “I’m so glad I caught him” she cried. “I hope he hasn’t been bothering you much. He always escapes from the mental hospital and tells people that he is Warren Buffet”, saying this she took the old man away.

The surprised man just stood there, stunned!

All year long he had been dealing thinking that he had half a million dollars behind him…
Its not the money, real or imagined that turns our life around. It is our Self-confidence that gives us the power to achieve anything and everything that we want.

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12 Toxic Behaviors that Push People Away From You

In our line of work, Angel and I hear from hundreds of coaching clients every month.  Through this experience, we’ve come across scores of toxic behaviours that push people away from each other.  And we’ve witnessed the devastation these behaviors cause – to relationships, to personal and professional growth, and to the general well-being of both the individual behaving negatively, and to everyone in their life.

Let’s be honest – we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another.  None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings, but many people are more evolved, balanced and aware, and such occurrences happen only rarely in their lives.

Whether your toxic behavior is a common occurrence, or just a once in a blue moon phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re behaving negatively, and consciously shift your mindset when necessary.

The twelve most common toxic behaviors we see are:

1. Being envious of everyone else. – Don’t let envy (or jealously) get the best of you.  Envy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  There is nothing attractive or admirable about this behavior.  So stop comparing your journey with everyone else’s.  Your journey is YOUR journey, NOT a competition.  You are in competition with one person and one person only – yourself.  You are competing to be the best you can be.  If you want to measure your progress, compare yourself to who you were yesterday.
2. Taking everything too personally. – People are toxic to be around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct assault on them or is in some way all about them.  The truth is that what people say and do to you is much more about them, than you.  People’s reactions to you are about their perspectives, wounds and experiences.  Whether people think you’re amazing, or believe you’re the worst, again, is more about them.  I’m not suggesting we should be narcissists and ignore all feedback.  I am saying that so much hurt, disappointment and sadness in our lives comes from our taking things personally.  In most cases it’s far more productive and healthy to let go of other people’s good or bad opinion of you, and to operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
3. Acting like you’re always a victim. – Another toxic behavior is persistent complaining that fuels your sense of victimization.  Believing you’re a victim, that you have no power to exert and no power over the direction of your life, is a toxic stance that keeps you stuck.  Working as a life coach with people who have suffered major trauma in their lives but found the courage to turn it all around, I know we all have access to far more power, authority, and influence over our lives than we initially believe.  When you stop complaining, and refuse to see yourself as a helpless victim, you’ll find that you are more powerful than you realized, but only if you choose to accept this reality.
4. Hoarding pain and loss. – One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy – you fight to hold on and you fight to let go.  But often times letting go is the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past.  You’ve got to emotionally free yourself from the things that once meant a lot to you, so you can move beyond the past and the pain it brings you.  Again, it takes hard work to let go and refocus your thoughts, but it’s worth every bit of effort you can muster.
5. Obsessive negative thinking. – It’s very hard to be around people who refuse to let go of negativity – when they ruminate and speak incessantly about the terrible things that could happen and have happened, the scorns they’ve suffered, and the unfairness of life.  These people stubbornly refuse to see the positive side of life and the positive lessons from what’s happening.  Pessimism is one thing – but remaining perpetually locked in a negative mindset is another.  Only seeing the negative, and operating from a view that everything is negative and against you, is a twisted way of thinking and living, and you can change that.
6. Lack of emotional self-control. – An inability to manage your emotions is toxic to everyone around you.  We all know these people – those who explode in anger and tears over the smallest hiccup or problem.  Yelling at the grocery store clerk for the long line, screaming at an employee for a small error she made, or losing it with your daughter for spilling juice on the floor.  If you find that you’re overly emotional, losing your cool at every turn, you may need some outside assistance to help you gain control over your emotions and understand what’s at the root of your inner angst.  There’s more to it than what appears on the surface.  An independent perspective – and a new kind of support – can work wonders.
7. Making superficial judgments about others. – Don’t always judge a person by what they show you.  Remember, what you’ve seen is oftentimes only what that person has chosen to show you, or what they were driven to show based on their inner stress and pain.  Alas, when another person tries to make you suffer in some small way, it is usually because they suffer deep within themselves.  Their suffering is simply spilling over.  They do not need punishment or ridicule, they need help.  If you can’t help them, let them be.
8. Cruelty (or lacking empathy and compassion). – One of the most toxic behaviors – cruelty – stems from a total lack of empathy, concern or compassion for others.  We see it every day online and in the media – people being devastatingly unkind and hurtful to others just because they can.  They tear people down online in a cowardly way, using their anonymity as a shield.  Cruelty, backstabbing, and hurting others for any reason is toxic, and it hurts you as well.  If you find yourself backstabbing and tearing someone else down, stop in your tracks.  Dig deep and find compassion in your heart, and realize that we’re all in this together.
9. Cheating and cutting moral corners simply because you can. – Cheating is a choice, not a mistake, and not an excuse!  If you decide to cheat, and you succeed in cheating someone out of something, don’t think that this person is a fool.  Realize that this person trusted you much more than you ever deserved.  Be bigger than that.  Don’t do immoral things simply because you can.  Don’t cheat.  Be honest with yourself and everyone else.  Do the right thing.  Integrity is the essence of everything successful.
10. Hiding your truth. – People cannot connect with you if you’re constantly trying to hide from yourself.  And this becomes a truly toxic situation the minute they become attached to your false persona.  So remember, no matter what age, race, sex, or sexuality you are, underneath all your external decorations you are a pure, beautiful being – each and every one of us are.  We each have light to shine, and missions to accomplish.  Celebrate being different, off the beaten path, a little on the weird side, your own special creation.  If you find yourself feeling like a fish out of water, by all means find a new river to swim in.  But DO NOT change who you are; BE who you are.  Don’t deny yourself, improve yourself.
11. Needing constant validation. – People who constantly strive for validation by others are exhausting to be around.  Those men and women who get caught up in the need to prove their worth over and over and over, and constantly want to win over everyone around them, are unintentionally toxic and draining.  Know this.  Over-attaching to how things have to look to others can wear you out and bring everyone else around you down.  There is a bigger picture to your life, and it’s not about what you achieve in the eyes of the masses.  It’s about the journey, the process, the path – what you’re learning, how you’re helping others learn too, and the growing process you allow yourself to participate in.
12. Being a stubborn perfectionist. – As human beings, we often chase hypothetical, static states of perfection.  We do so when we are searching for the perfect house, job, friend or lover.  The problem, of course, is that perfection doesn’t exist in a static state.  Because life is a continual journey, constantly evolving and changing.  What is here today is not exactly the same tomorrow – that perfect house, job, friend or lover will eventually fade to a state of imperfection.  But with a little patience and an open mind, over time, that imperfect house evolves into a comfortable home.  That imperfect job evolves into a rewarding career.  That imperfect friend evolves into a steady shoulder to lean on.  And that imperfect lover evolves into a reliable lifelong companion.  It’s just a matter of letting perfectionism GO.

THE FLOOR IS YOURS…

If you can relate to any of these toxic behaviors, remember, you are not alone.  We all have unhealthy personalities buried deep within us that have the potential to sneak up on us sometimes.  As stated above, the key is awareness – recognizing these behaviors and stopping them in their tracks.

So, what toxic behaviors (or mood swings) sometimes sneak up on you?  What toxic behaviors push you away from others?  How do you cope?  Leave a comment below and share your insights with us.

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